When you have a small guest count at an elopement or micro-wedding, the question of how to include people is worth thinking through deliberately. Guests at an intimate ceremony can feel like spectators — present but passive — or they can feel genuinely part of the day. The difference is almost entirely in the planning.

Here are the ways I've found most meaningful for involving small groups in an intimate ceremony.

The blank page problem is real. And what I've found, helping couples think through their vows over the years, is that the fear usually comes from trying to write something universally beautiful — something that would work for anyone — instead of something that works for exactly one person.

So your officiant, parents, friends, planner, significant other…reccomended you have a special reading for your ceremony and YOU ARE LOST on where to find one. This blog post is for you!